We've ALL been that kid. The one standing on the sidelines while everyone else is getting swept up in some game we knew damn well we'd suck at.
And what did the adults do? They'd drag us in anyway. "Come on! It'll be FUN!"
Fun for who, exactly?
But here's where it gets really messed up...
You: Overwhelmed?
That same dynamic doesn't magically disappear when you grow up. Nope. It just gets sneakier.
Now instead of playground games, it's family gatherings where you're supposed to be the "happy one." It's saying yes to things that drain your soul because saying no feels like you're being a selfish bastard.
And the worst part?
You end up living someone else's life while your authentic self is locked away in some mental closet, gathering dust.
The shame and guilt? They're like prison guards making sure you never escape.
But here's what nobody tells you...
Free Yourself
Learning to say no isn't about being mean or difficult. It's about survival. It's about finally giving yourself permission to be human instead of some performing monkey dancing for everyone else's approval.
What if you haven't acquired the skills of setting boundaries with others because of shame, and guilt by saying no? Yeah, that's scary as hell when you've never done it before. But it's like a muscle - the more you use it, the stronger it gets.
Keep Going: Why?
Those family dynamics that make you want to crawl under a rock? They're not your responsibility to fix!
Your Own Journey:
Your only job is to show up as YOU. The real you. Not the version everyone else wants you to be.
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